Jane Austen and Lynyrd Skynyrd
The other day at work, my friend recommended the movie/mini series “Persuasion”, based on the Jane Austen novel. He then went onto tell me how the 2007 version is the one I want, not the one from the nineties,because the earlier version tries to do the “Emma” thing too much. If you are a girl who likes to read, chances are you know exactly what he means. I get along swimmingly with this guy, as he provides pearls of wisdom and stimulating conversation all the time. Not only is he brilliant but also, I think because he was raised with all girls, I find him especially fascinating.
While this is great, I think it’s interesting to note that the guy I have dated most seriously is an athlete; a home-grown good-hearted man’s man (his favorite song is “Simple Man” by Lynyrd Skynyrd, if that helps paint the picture). Now, on one hand I feel like women (and men too) are constantly complaining about the obstacles that the differences between the sexes bring into relationships. Sometimes you wish guys you dated really did enjoy the chick-flick or talking about their feelings. But is that actually what women want? As we saw in one of Karin’s previous posts, it seems masculinity in men today is highly undervalued. Maybe there are aspects of the differences between men and women which compliment each other.
No two people will agree on every decision made. Therefore, I think compromise is an essential component in a relationship is compromise. Without this, it will be extremely difficult for the relationship to succeed. It is also important to want to compromise for the other person. This is especially needed for those everyday decisions such as what movie to watch, where to go to dinner, who will drive, or what card game to play. These little compromises add up in the long run and what make the relationship last.
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I've dated boys who described themselves as "snm's" or sensitive nineties men. They were thoughtful, respectful and well, boring after about 60 days. The man I married (who also loves Skynrd) is definitely sensitive and respectful- but not in a mushy way. We disagree all the time, but we challenge each other. We keep each other on our toes. We cause each other to look at life from the other side. That's what makes a marriage work- the excitement someone who stimulates your mind. Sensitivity is definitely important, but sensitivity combined with a challenging mind is hot!
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It's Jane Austen. And Scarlett O'Hara.
Please stop spelling things wrong. I won't even get into your bizarre punctuation. If you have nothing of intelligence or substance to say, at least say it well.
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Thanks! I have always been awful with spelling and grammar. I know, I am the worst person in the world to be writing in a public forum. I would really appreciate it if you would call my many errors to my attention. I am not being sarcastic at all. Not only am I constantly trying to improve my writing, but also, my errors effect the way NeW appears!
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